Need to vent!

Has anyone had difficulties when trying to set a wedding date? If you have, or know of anyone who has in the past, please share your stories! I could sure use it. This post is simply a vent...

J and I were originally planning on getting married in August because it did not seem too rushed and was one of the only months that I could actually have a wedding and a honeymoon with my school schedule. Literally, my only 3 options are May 09, August 09 or 2010!

The only Saturday in August that this would work was August 15. If I do it earlier, I am in finals, if I do it later, I am back in school! We were not completely sold on August because it is THE HOTTEST month of the entire year in Houston. I am talking average 96 degrees and very humid, plus Jason and I really want to get married outside. We were still going to move forward, until we realized that my brother will be graduating college that day! I am so proud of him and he has worked so hard, so there is no way I wanted to pass over his big day.

So, we looked at May. I looked up everyone's possible graduation days in our family and May 23 was clear! Any weekend earlier, I am in spring finals or it is Jason's sister's college graduation. Any week later and I am back in school.

I called our venue of choice with my one date in mind in May thinking it is WAY too late to get it because this is a popular place, but it was open!!!!!!!

Jason and I were so stoked. May 23 is perfect in so many ways:
- J and I met on February 23 and the first movie we saw together was "23" so needless to say, that number is special to us
- May won't be as hot outside
- Our venue is available!
- Won't be hurricane season so no potential of a ruined honeymoon
- It is sooner than the August plan...I can be Jason's wife sooner!

But then (enter dark clouds) while I was sitting in class this evening, Jason chatted me online and said that his best friend and his fiance, just announced that their wedding just got scheduled for May 23. WHAT??? We just saw them at dinner 2 days ago and they told us their wedding would be in June. Trust me-I would have checked with them had they said May. They told us that they won't change their date because it was the only day in May that their church was available.

So, I immediately called my mother, and her reaction was:
"you can't change your wedding just because someone can't go...you can't make everyone happy"

Good point mom, but it is his best friend. The worst part isn't even that they will miss each other's wedding (which sucks) but that all of their friends (they are a really tight group of guys who have grown up together) will have to choose which wedding to attend. This just doesn't sound good!

I know what you are thinking...have one in the early afternoon and one at night. NO-we live 3.5 hours from each other so that would just not work and unfortunately, most of Jason's friends live very close to the other may 23 wedding so by default would probably choose the other wedding.

We are still waiting to see what the other couple decides or says. They never returned Jason's last text.

Does anyone have advice or a similar situation?